How Does Infertility Impact Your Relationship?

Monday, June 6, 2016 | 1:08 am

Men and women are affected by infertility in different ways. Most couples experience the struggle in much the same way.

Women in infertile couples often protect their husbands from their own pain and feelings of failure by taking much of the responsibility for the treatments upon themselves. When it is suggested that men accompany their wives for appointments, couples get concerned about issues like income loss, use of time, etc.

Men are traditionally seen as the financial providers of the relationship and are responsible for protecting the family from real or imagined dangers. Men usually feel more threatened expressing themselves since they have often been conditioned to repress their emotions. They are trained to be more instructional to take charge, to make decisions and to think without being sidetracked by emotions.

Males in infertile couples often feel overwhelmed by the intensity of their partner’s emotions as well as an inability to access their own. They tend to focus their energy back into their work, a place where they feel they can have more success.

Luckily, there are ways that men and women can help each other balance thinking and feeling as they struggle side by side on their journey toward parenthood. The questions then arise: How do I get what I need from my partner? How can I support for my partner during this difficult time? Infertility is something that people should work on together.

Continue the conversation about infertility and join the movement to #StartAsking important questions about infertility as part of National Infertility Week, April 24-30.

The discussion is in full swing – you can be part of a “social media flash mob” and join the online conversation or sign up for Advocacy Day (by May 4) at

For more information on fertility visit HRC Fertility at 333 South Arroyo Parkway 3rd Floor, Pasadena or schedule an appointment by calling (626) 440-9161 or visiting


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