Yes, You CAN Co-Parent After a D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

Tuesday, October 20, 2015 | 7:12 pm

Kearney BakerDivorce occurs far more often than we admit. According to DivorceStatistics.org, about 41% of marriages end in divorce. The key to a healthy divorce is making sure your children get to experience the best co-parenting situation possible. There are several tips you can follow with your ex to ensure that your children continue to feel safe and sound.

Whenever possible, it’s important to keep the rules consistent from one home to the next. Children thrive with structure and consistency and will feel secure when they know what to expect wherever they go.

Don’t talk about your ex in a negative light. Telling your child that things didn’t work out is one thing, but bashing your ex is entirely another. This not only makes a child feel like they need to choose sides but puts you in a negative light.

Never put your children in a position of being the messenger. Don’t ask them to give messages to your ex or barrage them with questions about your ex. The only exception is if you are worried about your child not being cared for properly; you can inquire about what life is like at their other house, but only as it pertains to them.

Do your best to be flexible when it comes to new schedules. If a conversation is needed about issues involving the children, keep a calm tone and do it away from the kids whenever possible. Allow the kids to have basics at each house like clothes, toiletries and toys. This helps the transition from home to home flow seamlessly and lets the child feel at comfortable in both homes.

If you are in need of a divorce lawyer or have questions about visitation rights, visit the Law Offices of Kearney and Baker at www.kearneybaker.com/Divorce/.

 

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